Good morning! Happy Saturday! Happy play day.
So yesterday started with our dog jumping up on the bed and throwing up ON my husband. Spectacular. With emphasis on the spectacle. It appears that those stolen Christmas cookies did not agree with her delicate constitution.
This morning I met a dear girlfriend for a spin class while my family slept. Tonight, college kid comes home to help us decorate the tree. Youngest requested pasta for dinner (his favorite comfort food) and daughter wants to watch Christmas movies with popcorn and Junior Mints.
Yesterday, not perfect. Today, pretty darn close to ideal.
And isn’t that just life in a nutshell?
I know there is so much pressure this time of year. So many things you want to be and do and give. And you’ll be able to do so much, and it will be wonderful. You won’t be able to do it all, and really, that’s okay too. There are only so many hours in a day and you are allowed to choose how you spend yours. That’s life and it’s messy and it’s still going to be good.
Know your highest value and take care to feed that. Whatever it is that you cherish, I hope hope hope you will take care to feed that.
When something has to be given up, it’s reasonable to feel sad while at the same time recognizing (with no regret) that in giving up your whatever-it-is, you free up space for something more highly valued.
Like tonight. There is a fabulous huge Christmas party tonight that some friends of ours planned months ago. Grown-ups only, very fancy. I love these people and I have been looking forward to seeing them and catching up. We RSVP’d yes and put it on our calendar. Then, about three weeks ago, my husband’s work went crazy.
He is suddenly working seven days a week, sometimes fourteen hours a day. At Christmas time. We’ve taken to having breakfast together just so the children see him. Our Christmas tree, still not decorated, is there in the corner, where it’s been since Thanksgiving, because every time we think we’ll have a night to decorate, my husband gets called into work.
Back to tonight. Yesterday, husband discovered that he can be home by 6:30 tonight. He is not guaranteed another day off till December 25. I called college kid and he can drive home for dinner. Daughter also had a party scheduled, but when she found out Dad was going to be home, she decided to skip it in favor of time with him.
In our hierarchy of values, the strength of our family’s bond of affection ranks higher than anything else we’ll find in this world. And we have Christmas traditions that are so very special to us. When we have a chance to keep that bond strong, during a Christmas season that has proven to be crazier than the usual crazy, we are going to grab it. Husband and I will miss our party, daughter will miss her party, eldest son is giving up some time to study for finals.
We have to free up that space in our lives to make room for family.
This time together as a family is not glitzy or sexy. No one will send out a fancy invitation to this simple event. We won’t dress up in our sparkly finest, nor will we get a grade at the end of the night to affirm the quality of our time spent together.
It is still the best. The. Best.
You know what you value. You’ve got two weeks left to build that into your Christmas. Whatever your heart aches for, make room for it. And please, please, please, don’t let What Other People Think sway your decision making.
We build these lives of ours; we decorate the rooms of our heart. Make it your own, Mamma. Make it your beautiful.