Good morning, girl! How are you!? Thursday, almost the weekend…
I am trying to decide whether to go for a promotion. I really want the job and I’d be good at it, but the family-work-travel balance, that’s not easy math, is it? How much at-home is enough at-home? What about when they’re teenagers? They are tying their own shoes now, but when they need me, the issues tend to be bigger. And the parenting opportunities are fewer, so I need to take them when they come up.
I roll it around in my head, endlessly.
And Dad has had a series of small strokes. He needs me around more than he did.
But my travel would mostly be in my control… but not entirely… but that’s the life I’m living right now, too… but my away-days would increase… but the pay would be better and that would help to pay for college…
And so I go on.
Our daily decisions, yours and mine. We working mommies. The little ones (should I swing by and get take-out? It’s 7:00 and making dinner would sap my remaining energy, and probably make me crabby, but it’s not in the budget and it’s not the healthiest and we had take-out yesterday…) and the big ones (do I go for this promotion???).
As I’ve said before, this life is not for sissies.
We have to be tough enough to go for what’s right for us. AND tough enough to let that be our family vs the job if that’s what our heart and head tells us. AND we have to be flexible enough to roll with the flat tire, the strep throat, the needy customer. AND smart and humble enough to ask for help when we need it. Because we are going to need it. No woman ever did this alone, sistah.
And can we please be allowed to look good while we’re doing all this? Wonder woman does., after all. She can be badass AND look fabulous. Oh, right, movie magic. If I had a stylist and a make-up artist hiding in my closet upstairs, that WOULD help.
It’s okay. It’s always okay. There are many ways to have a good life, just like there are many ways to be a great mom.
Love you, girl. Happy decision making, whatever your decisions are today.
Be gentle with yourself, yes? Gentle AND strong. Diana Prince has nothing on us.