Ode to stepdads —
When my oldest was around four, he asked me why we called my husband Stepdad. “Because he stepped into your life after you were born,” I responded.
And thank God he did.
So, today, for my husband, our son’s stepdad, gratitude and respect to you my darling. So much gratitude and respect.
Thank you for teaching me to let our son play with the creatures on the riverbank. Thank you for teaching me to let him get dirty and wet and to let him explore. Thank you for helping me to understand what it is to let him be a boy.
Thank you for including our son’s dad in your game of baseball or football or soccer when he would come over for a visit, and then quietly excusing yourself to let them have that time just to themselves.
Thank you for, when I asked, saying and meaning, “I love kiddo, I love spending time with kiddo, but I’m not his dad; he has a dad, and they need that time together.”
Thank you for, when I asked you after you’d proposed, did you know that I was a package deal?, for saying and meaning, “I know that in marrying you, I am signing up to love kiddo like a son, with no guarantee that he will ever love me like a father.”
Thank you for cleaning up the dog throw-up, and the kid’s throw-up, and my throw-up, and never complaining. Okay, almost never.
Thank you for never differentiating between our kids, bio and step, in public or in your heart. “Hi, let me introduce you to my kids: Kiddle, Middle and Little. They are the greatest kids ever – practically perfect in every way.”
Thank you for the hours and hours of driving between houses without complaining. For finding cool parks and activities along the way to make the travel easier for everyone.
Thank you for never once talking about child support or grousing about money. Never once. Thank you for, when I asked you, saying and believing, “you cannot put a price on having a good relationship with your co-parent”.
Thank you for your love, your generosity, your selflessness. Thank you for not needing to be right, for not needing it to be fair, for making our children’s happiness your greatest good.
Stepdads are a special kind of hero. I am so grateful to you for being ours.