Happy Friday, Mamma! How are you, girl? Ready to have some time with those kiddos?
I’ve been studying epigenetics recently. Okay, hang with me, it’s simply the science of nature vs nurture. How our preprogramed genetic code can be affected and changed by our behavior and, in the studies I’m reading, behavior of our mothers. Well, rat mothers to be specific.
The stunning and, for a human working mother, terrifying truth is, that in all the studies I’ve read so far, we most definitely can change our children’s genetic code, turning different genes on and off with our mothering.
Now, stay calm, you can still work. In fact, for many moms, working is the better choice, allowing us to be more focused on the kiddos when we get home. This, assuming we find quality childcare for our kiddos, and that we focus on our kiddos when we are home. Because there is no guarantee that staying home will result in happy kiddos, especially if mommy is not happy while staying home. But we do need to spend time with our kiddos, they need us, no avoiding that (and why would we want to?).
Lord, controversial stuff here, isn’t it?
It’s hard stuff to hear, hard for me too, in that many of us don’t have a choice about whether we work or not, and we dread hearing that anything we are doing might hurt our kids, but it’s a powerful truth: you matter. How you mom your kiddos matters.
Here’s a cute video explaining epigenetics. A four minute, fifty second introduction to epigenetics. I’ll post more later about how mother rats are more efficient hunters than virgin rats (take that twenty-something-college-grads) and about maternity leave.
If you don’t have the time to watch, simply know this: You matter.