Good morning, Mamma. Saturday… yum. Make some memories today, please? Yes the laundry and the groceries, I get it. But don’t forget to make memories too.
At a dinner party a couple months ago, I asked one of the men across the table what he “did”. “I make memories for my kids”, he replied, without missing a beat. Everyone around us sort of paused and was trying to process a surprising answer to a most basic dinner party question when he continued, smiling, “Or do you mean what I do to get the money to make memories with my kids?”
It was such a change in perspective for me.
And a lesson made all the more poignant by the fact that our oldest has told us that when he moves back to school this fall, he won’t be coming back. Oh, he’ll come back for birthdays and Christmas and the occasional Sunday dinner, he will call and email and he still loves us very much, but this is it, he’s moving out.
Can you imagine my grief? This is it. All the stuff I missed as a working mom, and all the stuff I made it to, that careful balance of enough for work and enough for my family, adding up the hours and events and dinners at home… our math, for the most part, is done.
Keep that in mind as you plan your day. This season, this mess and sleep loss and helping on with very small shoes, it ends.
When it does, make sure that you have a wealth of memories to go back and visit. A treasure trove.