Please read this super quick article. Talking with our kids is absolutely essential.
Last week, I sat across from a mom, on vacation with her three and four year old, who went through a three and a half hour cross-country flight talking to her children precisely once: “Mommy, I have to go potty.” “Okay, honey.” Otherwise, she watched her movies (one , ironically, about a devoted father who goes to the ends of the earth to protect his children) and kiddos played with their iPads. I saw the children try to get her attention six times. SIX TIMES. Mommy? Mommy, look at this! And she kept watching her movie. It was all I could do not to lean across the aisle and say, “What is it kiddo? Show me.”
I raised my kids without TV and without iPads. They got one hour of screen time or one movie on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays. Otherwise, we read or we talked. We played. Endless Candyland, books, forts, walks outside. It is possible. It is crucial. They don’t care if you’re tired. You’re still so very important to them. And they need to know they’re important to you.
This MIT study confirms what an earlier UCLA study found. If we want our children to develop to their potential (nevermind having a healthy relationship with them), we need to talk with them.