Good morning, Mamma. If you are sending a daughter off to college, she needs to know about the Red Zone.
“The 2007 Campus Sexual Assault Study discovered that more than 50% of college sexual assaults occur in August, September, October, or November. The CSA’s findings also indicate ‘that women who are victimized during college are most likely to be victimized early on in their college tenure.'”
My daughter decided not to date or drink her first semester at school. That will allow her to get her bearings with all of her faculties intact. It will also give her more time to figure out who the good guys (and who the bad guys) are at school. She was also talked to by a relative who goes to a different college. He instructed her, in the most serious tones, that she is to bring her own, capped, water bottle to a party if she goes (“and I hope you don’t go, he said”), take the cap off to take a drink and then put the cap back on.
Think these are hard things to ask of your kid? Well, it’s ugly stuff, for sure, but give your kiddo credit for wanting a safe, successful life. Whole truth: my daughter decided not to drink till she’s 21. We have alcoholism in both my husband’s and in my families. Daughter knows that the longer she waits, the lower the chance she’ll turn those genes on. And she wants time to focus on her studies; she is determined to win enough scholarships in the next years to get her college paid for.
Tough conversations. But crucial. Go on, Mamma, arm your daughter with knowledge.