Good morning, Mamma. I have about seven minutes to say hello today. I’m in the thick of it, girl.
I had a conversation this weekend with a teen-age girl who wanted to talk career. I had a chance to tell her about how I passed on promotions while my kids were kids because in my business, a promotion means a move or 80% travel.
And I was so pleased to observe my heart and discover I have no regrets.
Because there is no amount of money, prestige or power that can compete with the experiences I had with my kids, loving them, mothering them, teaching them and cheering them on. And I love my career! You know I do! I feel so blessed that I’ve been able to have both a life as a mother and a life as a business woman.
The mac & cheese on the front porch, popcorn and Junior Mints in front of a movie, tiny clementine sections eaten on a hike… the flavors of my choices.
Think on this, Mamma. Twenty years from now you will look back. What do you want it to look like?
Your business may be more flexible than mine. If I had moved up, my time with my kids would have been reduced exponentially.
At a crucial time in my life, an older mentor cautioned me when I went to her to ask advice about a promotion I had been asked to interview for. She told me a story. Her son, at his graduation dinner, after her speech about how wonderful it had been to mother him, had said out loud, in front of the family, “Come on Mom, you know we pretty much raised ourselves.”
She cried when she told me about it.
You can have a career. You can make money. You can be a success. Just mind the trade-offs, girl.