Good morning, girl. Happy Thursday! How’s the week so far? You staying connected to your kiddos? It’s an ongoing thing, isn’t it? Every day is different. You energy varies, their needs vary, the little surprises of life can vary (like, surprise, your car won’t start! or surprise, kiddo has the flu!)
If you can hang on to one little routine throughout the crazy, it can provide so much comfort and connection.
Our routine when mine were little was reading out loud before bedtime. Even when I was so tired that I would literally fall asleep while reading the book! They would pat my cheek with their chubby little hands and say, “Mamma, Mamma… we’re not done yet! Mamma?” And I’d wake up and we’d get through another couple pages. I had Jamberry memorized. And Good Night Moon. I could turn the pages and “read” the book with my eyes closed! Mommy super-powers.
Recently, we had some tough stuff going on here at home. Big tough stuff. My teenagers ended up in my bedroom, one on the rocker, one on the floor, one on the bed. There was so much sadness; nobody was ready to go to sleep. And then I reached for James Herriot’s “All Creatures Great And Small”, a book that’d we’d read out loud, cover to cover, years ago (in fact we read through the whole series). I opened to a random story and started reading. They all looked up and smiled. “Oh, I love this one,” my daughter said.
It helped. Returning to our comforting routine, even all these years later, we all felt the comfort and love in that.
What is your I-love-you-ritual? Toast and hot cocoa before bed? Reading? Going for a walk? I know a couple who walk with their daughters every single night before bed. They put the girls in this uber-large stroller and walk till they fall asleep. It’s a lovely and loving ritual that helps Mommy and Daddy wind down too.
Make it yours.