Good morning! Happy Monday. MLK day, God bless that wonderful man. May we all judge and be judged on the content of our character, period, amen. He changed our culture.
About a million years ago my husband and I spent six weeks choosing a kindergarten for our oldest son. Talk about culture. We visited nine different schools, most of the time surprising the school by just dropping by and walking in. You would be shocked at how many schools we just wandered into and wandered through with no one asking us why we were there. And you’d be shocked at what we saw (or maybe you wouldn’t be).
Most schools would let my husband and I sit in on an hour of kindergarten, by appointment. When we did this, we saw chaotic classrooms, we saw calm classrooms. We saw teachers who loved active little boys and somehow magically directed their enthusiasm, we saw teachers who clearly couldn’t stand active little boys, who censured them through clenched teeth. We saw interested kids and bored (or worse, scared) kids. We would ask ourselves, is this worth a half hour drive? Is this worth the tuition? Would our kid thrive here? Is this our tribe?
Recently, we concluded a six month search for a college for our daughter. Really, the same process, just longer drives to get there. College visits, graduation rates, average income of a graduate. Only this time the kid had much more input in the process. Do they have the classes you are looking for, can we afford it, what is the campus culture?
We care so deeply about where we send our kids, because the environment that they (and we) live in will have a profound effect on who they grow up to be.
Our work environment has a similar effect on us, doesn’t it? We are affected by the culture of the company we work for, we are affected by our commute, by our boss (less in our control), by travel and ethics and co-workers. I hope you are happy with your place. If not, is it time for you to start the search for a new environment for yourself?
You have my permission to be very choosy about who gets you and about who gets your kid. These are big decisions, no mistake.
Each of your kids is different. Each of us has a value system we hope that our kids school will support. You know your kid, you know your values, you know your resources. Don’t settle, Mamma. Be the Mamma Bear who demands the right place for your kiddo.
And, Mamma Bear, demand the right place for yourself too. Even if it takes months for you to find it and to get there, where we spend our days has a huge impact on our lives.
Find somewhere beautiful.