Hi there, Mamma. Happy Friday! Wow, but this is a bananas time of year, isn’t it? Back to School!! For the kids, and sometimes for Mommy too.
Back to School madness has been a theme in so many of my conversations with friends this week. One girlfriend, who is going back to graduate school herself, in addition to sending her kiddos back, was trying to make a month’s worth of meals to freeze. She’d been cooking for, like, two days straight when I talked to her and she was somewhere between stressed and hilarious.
Two other girlfriends are going to be on business trips – the unavoidable, un-reschedulable kind – on their kiddos first days of school. That sucks. No getting around it, no other way to say it, there are times when this working mom gig just hurts so much, and missing the first day of school would be one of them. They were both strategizing note-writing, face-timing, making-it-up-to-them, and they were both still in pain.
Most every working mom is juggling the do-your-shoes-still-fit, how-many-notebooks-do-you-need, when-is-parent-orientation of it all while also trying to keep a poker face at work. Who’s stressed? Not me! I’m fine, totally. Really. Sort of. Mostly.
It’s a non-stop juggle this life of ours. A non-stop balancing and re-balancing act that should land us a star spot in any Cirque de Soleil if they had any inkling of our talents.
As you dance to the circus music, please keep bringing yourself back to your core values. What is going to matter fifteen years from now? If you skip out of whatever-work-obligation to be there for your kids’ special day, will that put your job in jeopardy? If you miss that thing your kid has especially asked you to be there for, will it hurt your relationship?
I talked to a woman this week who left a national directorship position to take a job with less travel because work was winning too often. Brave woman. I talked to another woman who is weighing a promotion. I talked to women who were Hello-Freshing, Grandma-can-you-help-me-with-laundry, gotta-find-a-sitter-for-this-one, managing their lives.
Only you can determine what will work for you, your family and your job. It won’t be perfect, it’s never perfect, but it can still be good.
Those core values, Mamma. Filter it all through those. Your lighthouse, keeping you off the rocks, your North Star.