Good morning, Mommy. Happy Wednesday! Nine days to go. This morning I find myself hoping that you will have your Christmas, not anybody else’s. That you will know the traditions that are important to you and that you will own them, value them and protect them with no thought about whether you are doing Christmas “right”.
Our family traditions are cookies (ridiculous dozens of them) and Christmas coupons. Those (and getting the tree at our same old tree farm out in the country) are the traditions that mean the most to me and my family.
You don’t have to bake to have a wonderful Christmas. And get your kids whatever you want to get them, it’s your family and your budget. I know what I love and I will protect that. I hope you will do the same.
I also love cards and garland and having our same Christmas Eve dinner (fondue).
My sister’s cherished Christmas tradition is skiing with her family. (And good for her for letting me know that very directly. They are coming to visit and she wanted me to know that skiing was a must for them.) Another friend celebrates the Dutch tradition of Sinterklaas with her kids. Another friend makes lefsa every year with her mother. Those are their things, their traditions, and good for them!
I don’t know anyone else who hangs garland as I do. I don’t know anyone else who makes homemade lefsa from scratch every year. But that is part of the beauty of traditions – there isn’t one culturally approved thing you must do; traditions are about what makes your family unique.
What is your thing? We have nine days left. My hope for you, my very busy friend, is that you’ll make sure that you are spending your time, energy and money on things that feed your heart and your sparkling family’s soul. Don’t worry about what the neighbors are doing – that’s their Christmas. What do YOU love? What do your kids love? Do that, make time for that.
Someday, when your kids are grown and away at college and describing your family to their friends, they’ll say, “In my family, at Christmas every year we…”
What do you hope they’ll be talking about?