Good morning, girl. How are you? I’ve been up since 3:30. Again. Sixth day in a row. There is just so much to do! Cards, cookies, decorations, to say nothing of year-end reports for work. Yes, its a little crazy, but its still happy-crazy, so I’m going with it.
The moment your happy-crazy turns into stressed-out-crying-and/or-yelling-overwhelmed-crazy, please stop, reassess and change something.
You don’t HAVE to do anything. Do what brings you and your family joy. Pick and choose what works for your time, your budget, your emotional energy. For us, there have been years when Christmas cards just didn’t happen, and that was alright. There have been years when we had parties and years when we didn’t. Both were wonderful in different ways. There were years when the only cookies in the house were the ones Grandma made – that year wasn’t so good; I pretty much missed Christmas that year swimming in the stress of a new job. That sucked. Don’t do that.
Do what works for you. You have my permission to cobble together whatever combination of cookies, no-cookies; shopping, no-shopping and decorating, no-decorating works for you. Just make sure that you are there and that joy is there and that your kids (and husband) are still smiling.
Make it yours. No apologies. No Christmas is perfect; there is no perfect; but there can be perfectly you. Make it wonderful and memorable.
My daughter has a friend whose family tradition is Chinese take-out on Christmas. That’s their special thing. I know another family that goes sledding on Christmas Eve. What is your special thing? What do you really want to make time for?
Please, as someone who has made this mistake, I’m asking you, don’t miss the joy because you are stressed out about doing or buying or trying to be whatever it is you think you are supposed to be. Just be you. This time of year is about family, connections, love.
Now, ready to go get that day?