Good morning, Christmas Mamma. Are you hanging in there? The days are getting pretty full right about now, aren’t they?
This weekend alone my family had one caroling party, one cookie exchange, a bowling party, three basketball games, our daughter’s confirmation, and a gala dinner/auction fundraiser for a charity we support. Really, just this weekend, just these last three days.
I’m willing to bet your calendar, though different in it’s events, was just as full.
This is go time, Mamma. These are the days that can lift you up, or drain you, depending.
You will for sure, for SURE, be given opportunities to do more than you can do this month. Choose wisely. You do not have to do it all. Do what feeds you, do what you love.
Some stuff you can’t change, like my daughter’s confirmation. (Really, Bishop, this weekend doesn’t work for us…) But other stuff you have some control over, as long as you allow yourself to say no.
Know your own heart. Know your children’s hearts and your husband’s. Build your family’s holiday – do your thing. Do what you love, no matter how crazy it sounds to other people. Decline those events that drain you. Build your holiday, just as you build your life.
I loved that cookie exchange. I hosted it. Sixty women – moms, sisters, daughters. Forty different kinds of cookies. I got up at 3:30 in the morning every morning since Thanksgiving to prepare for it. Clean, decorate, bake. And I loved it! Crazy? Yes, I’ll admit, crazy. But it’s my crazy and I’m grateful that I got to live it again with all those lovely women whom I adore.
What is your crazy? What is it about Christmas that you love? Go do that!
When my mother-in-law was alive, she would wrap each of our gifts elegantly. With beautiful paper and silky bows and sprigs of silk berries. Her thing. Another friend of mine organized that caroling party my daughter went to – what a beautiful idea. And that’s her thing. I have another girlfriend who travels with her kids at Christmas time. It’s their thing. Lefsa making, Salvation Army bell ringing, sledding with cocoa… so many awesome traditions to choose from.
It all sounds like fun, and I would probably do it all if I could freeze time and just play for another month and a half. But I can’t freeze time. I cannot do it all. I have eighteen days of merry-making left. So I pick and choose. I do what I love best.
What is your thing? What do you look forward to? My hope for you in these next few weeks is that you will allow yourself to embrace that, make time for it, revel in it.
With no apologies and no guilt. We are all different, Mammas. It’s part of what makes this world beautiful.
And you and your thing, whatever it is, are part of that beauty.