Good morning, Mommy! Here we go, MondayMonday. Back at it, right? Looking over your week to come? Planning it out?
As you sit at your desk, computer, kitchen table… wherever you may be looking over your week to come, as you start to map out the meetings, the business trips, the soccer games … as you anticipate the car pools you need to set up, the happy hours you need to dodge, the dinners that will have to be made… take care that you make room to breathe. Don’t work yourself to frantic, okay? Promise?
We, all of us will have ample opportunity to overdo it this week. As we have every week. Could you just do this one extra project for me? By Wednesday? Can you bring Janie home from the soccer game? Through rush hour traffic? We need a committee chair for the church thing. The committee that meets weekly.
Resist the urge to say yes to everything. You have my permission to guard your energy, you have my permission to say no.
My husband and I call it pie – the energy we have to get through every day. As you are mapping out the week, be sure you save some pie for your weekend. We get one pie’s worth of energy every day. We dish it out as the day goes on: one slice to the kids up and dressed and breakfasted, one slice to don’t-leave-me-tears at daycare, one slice to the work commute, one slice to the meeting that runs twenty minutes over, one slice to the argument with the co-worker, two slices to the email to the teacher to talk about the bully, one slice to grocery shopping in heels after work… and so on.
Don’t spend your weekend’s pie during the week. Don’t pour yourself out so completely this week that you get to your weekend an exhausted mess (crying on the floor at the foot of the stairs, as you’ll recall).
Look at the week. Do you have buffer time? Workout time? Sit-and-snuggle-and-read-out-loud-before-bed time? (I am the Queen of Overscheduling, so I am talking to myself here, too.)
Crock pot dinners are awesome time and energy savers. Rotisserie chicken ditto. (“What’s for dinner?” kills me. I have to have a dinner plan.) You can bring Janie to your house after the soccer game and her mom can pick her up there. You’ll be happy to work the event, but you cannot chair the committee for church. Set their clothes out at night so they can dress themselves in the morning. Put chore charts on the fridge with accountability check boxes so the kids can feed the dog, take out the garbage, do the dinner dishes. Give prizes to everyone whose boxes are all checked off by Friday.
Map it out, Mamma. See it ahead of time. And if you don’t like what you are seeing, change something.
Make time for living in all the doing. And I promise to do the same.
Okay, girl. Ready? Let’s hit it.