Happy Friday!!! Oh, Mamma. Lovely, light-hearted Friday, giddy with it’s promise of delicious Saturday right around the corner.
I was gob-smack exhausted when I got home after a fourteen hour day yesterday. My 9:00 A.M. dreams of roasted cauliflower and marinated chicken breast slowly faded throughout the day. 7:00 P.M. found me driving, catatonic, by Taco Bell thinking, “Maybe I could get everyone a Nachos Bell Grande?”
Thank God for my husband — that wonderful other grown-up in my house, my baton-hand-off partner in our life relay race. I called him and conveyed the depth of my fatigue. “I got this,” he said, “Just come home”.
He made a chicken fried rice while I lay in a stupor on the sofa, to tired to even take off my boots. I could hear him, in my dream-like state, asking our son about his homework, bantering with our daughter about track practice.
Life can be so much easier with two grown-ups in the house.
I find myself (no doubt fueled by my recent conversation with about-to-be-divorced girlfriend) thinking about how to nurture this relationship. Too often our date nights end up like my imagined dinner last night – grand plans of fancy-nights-out that are reduced to a stop by the Taco Bell drive-through by the pressures of time, money and the to-do list.
I know the data — couples who have couple-time once a week report a higher quality relationship than those who don’t. (Where this leaves my husband and I with our maybe once-a-quarter dates, I cringe to think…)
Tonight, Friday, do something nice for your man if you are lucky enough to have one. I’m making Trapper’s Porridge for breakfast this morning. Ridiculously putzy to make, and one of my husband’s favorites. I-love-you in a bowl.
Maybe get take-out burritos to eat while you watch his favorite movie tonight, after the kids go to bed. Maybe go for a walk before dinner and hold his hand. Have a glass of wine sitting on your front steps enjoying the mild weather. Whatever it is, do one little thing. Keep the fire lit, sister. Life is so much easier with two at the helm.