Good morning, Mommy! Happy Saturday!!! I hope you are ready for a wonderful day with your family. And I hope you’ll get a chance to take care of yourself today, too.
I was sick for most of this week. Still am, really. Last night, my husband and thirteen year old son spent some time listening to me cough and honk into a Kleenex, and conjecturing what animal I most sounded like. “Zombie cow” was my son’s vote, while my husband thought something more in the dinosaur line...
So, as you can imagine, it has not been the most productive week for me, and I am trying very, very hard not to feel like a complete failure over that. How can I feel guilty for getting a virus? And yet, I do.
We have such high expectations of ourselves, don’t we?
Well, darling, there may be perfect women out there, but I’ve yet to meet one of them.
If you, like me, didn’t have the week you planned for, give yourself a little grace today. Whatever didn’t go your way this week, let it go. Whatever didn’t get done, it’ll be there on Monday. If you (like me) are awash in a mountain of laundry, you’ll work your way through it today.
Most importantly though, more important that all of the tasks, is that you take care of yourself and that you continue to build your family. Build your family through time together, communication and shared experience. Talk to them. Hug them. Go, do something fun. Candyland, a walk down to the park or the coffee shop. Color together – so simple – trace around each other’s hands.
Because what are we here for really?
In my utterly subjective opinion, it’s not just to be productive, although I cheer on your every accomplishment. We’re here to love. Spend today building some of that.
There are days I love my work. And there are days I dream of staying home with my kids.
And then there are days that I realize, no matter what I do, it’ll never be perfect. And that by wishing for a perfect that will never be, I’m wasting the good that’s right in front of me.
And I sit with that a minute.
And then I’m grateful for what I have. And I get back to work.
Go get ’em, Mommy. Do the job that’s in front of you, as well as you can do it. And feel blessed that you can, and proud that you did.
Good morning, Mommies! Happy Saturday! Happy catch-up-on-the-laundry, sweep-the-kitchen, organize-the-pantry day.
But I hope this weekend, in between all your productivity, you will please, please, please have some fun with your family. Bake cookies, color with big fat crayons, go outside and look at all the new shoots coming up out of the ground. Plants some seeds. Go for a hike. Go fishing. Read a pile of books out loud – maybe in the tent you set up in your back yard. Something! Make some memories, Mamma.
I know it gets busy; we’re busy too. But, please, make the time.
We have lots of to-ing and fro-ing today. Every single kid has sports practice (one kid has two practices). My husband will be facilitating most of the driving during the afternoon, while I take our daughter to a play (Shakespeare!). Somewhere in there I have to get at LEAST three loads of laundry done (in addition to the one in the wash right now) and we are out of bread and eggs and anything resembling a vegetable. After the play, I’m bringing daughter to a friend’s house, and then later tonight we’ll meet another family for dinner. Rather a crazy day.
But. Tomorrow. Tomorrow, Sunday, is a designated “Do Nothing Day”. We even put it on the calendar (DND!). We will meet around the kitchen table for breakfast and plan out a day of exploring and meandering and being together. We may make it to church; we may pray together in God’s great outdoors. For sure we’ll be together.
Whatever we do will be spontaneous and relaxed and wonderful. I’ll talk to my kids. I’ll hold hands with my husband. I will not even check email, nor will I set foot in the laundry room. It’s going to be awesome. Previous DND’s have seen road trips, trips to the museum, picnics on the lawn. I never know quite what will happen.
As we launch into multiple schedules’ worth of craziness today, I look forward to tomorrow.
You see, we have to carve out time to just be together. We have to make it happen. Time is flying, and there is no rewind. We have to insist on it, plan it, protect it like the treasure it is.
Whether you play today, or play tomorrow, or play next Tuesday, PLAY.
Life is oh-so short. And we only get to do this once.
Yawn… good morning, mommies. Anyone else do the up-with-kids thing last night? I was up with teenager when he came home at midnight (out with a friend from the Naval Academy). And then up again at two, and again at three, with one of my Cali-bound friend’s two toddlers. (We’re watching the girls so they can get their house prep finished up.)
Wow – bleary this morning. But happy. And grateful.
I’m grateful I get to do the “hi honey, glad you’re home” with my teenage son. He has good friends. He’s home safe and sound. He’s glad I care. And I’m grateful that little eighteen-month-old cuteness will be comforted back to sleep by my voice and my hand on her back, “there, baby… hush now”… The trust of a child is a priceless thing.
I’m grateful for the work I get to do again today (coffee cup in hand, no doubt). I get to do work I enjoy, with people I respect. Plus they pay me, which is nice.
I’m grateful I married the kind of man who will text me in the middle of the day to see how I am doing. (I’m guessing I’ll be tired.)
AND I’m grateful I get to sleep in tomorrow. (SO grateful.)
Dinner tonight will be make-your-own pizzas and apple slices. Easy-peasy, Friday-night, Mamma’s-tired kind of dinner. We will eat off paper plates, so that there will be no dishes to clean up afterwards. I’m grateful for frozen pizza crust, pre-shredded cheese and for paper plates.
I’m struck again at how ridiculously messy these lives of ours are. And how beautiful. Lives full of people we love, responsibilities that keep us engaged, challenges that keep up growing.
Lucky, lucky us.
Fantastic article. I LOVE this writer. This particular 5 minute read offers clear and brilliant advice on staying connected or re-connecting. Great advice for moms of babies, kidlets and teens.
Two quotes for the day:
For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans to help you, and not to harm you, plans to give you hope, and a future. – Jeremiah 29:11
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. – Kelly Clarkson
Darling Working Mommies, you’ve got this.
Does anyone ever realize life while they live it… every, every minute?
– Thornton Wilder, Our Town